Hey again!!!
So I was inspired by the Ne-yo song "Single" which features New Kids On the Block. While listening to it I thought to myself "who wants to be single"? This brought on my blog for this afternoon. Being a woman that is over the age of twenty five I often think about relationships and being in a long-term commitment. Although this is a thought, it is not something I over think. I figure if it is meant to happen it will. Some women I know think differently, and are always in a relationship to make sure their odds of having a mate long term are high. Everyone thinks differently, and I believe that gender as well as race also plays a factor.
Question do you think that men and women think about relationships differently and why?
Do you think its our statistics as a race?
I have a slew of male friends, my room mate is a male so I see and hear different views all the time. I was speaking to a friend a couple days ago and I asked him why he wasn't in a relationship, especially because he is almost thirty. His answer was not surprising, it actually made perfect sense to me. He said to me that he wasn't in a relationship because he still had plenty of time. He went into detail that there is more (black) women than men in the world, and with his credentials as a black man (having a bachelors degree, no children, tall, dark and handsome) that he probably had nothing to worry about. The thing is, I hear similar things from other African American men regardless of their situation. There are some men that feel like finding a "good" African American woman is hard but agree that finding a woman in general isn't hard at all.
As a black, African-American women I feel that our situation is the total opposite. To find a "good black man" is like finding a million dollars in some cases. Granted, I am all about settings and where and you are surrounding yourself around. That is an important factor, and if that was the only factor a lot of us wouldn't be single. The fact of the matter is we out number black men. Considering the number of our men that are in jail, the men that get murdered daily and the men that are homosexual, if I was to do statistical research I am sure I would be in tears. I mean seriously, when you think about all of those things doesn't a light bulb come in your head?
So I ask again is it a gender thing? Do you all think that just because black women out number black men is why there are so many single women? Or are we not looking hard enough? Or are our standards to high? Please respond and let me know either on here, FB or Instagram.
Thx for reading my release!!
C. Destiny <3
Black women now don't know when they have something good. Think about it is always the one that cheats on you, talks to you like crap, and does God knows what that you keep and cry about and are willing to try for.it's like if a guy treats you good you try to walk over them and take them for a joke m It's like a very few black women that also have their shit together. No body wants to date somebody with 3-4 at 26 when he has none. But I also do believe it's a shortish of black men. So to the women take what you can grab before were all gone.
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